My highlights from BACP’s Practitioner Conference

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I’ve had a fab few days in lovely Leeds for the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy’s Practitioner Conference.

As part of BACP’s Coaching Executive (I’m their Specialist for Communications), it was brilliant to spend so much time with my colleagues and to learn more about the way they work.

I had some lovely feedback about my own presentations on becoming more embodied as practitioners (sharing self care tools with therapists and coaches and was glad I’d risked sharing some crystal therapy and EFT (emotional freedom technique) as well as the more obvious body and breath work.)

An unexpected but much appreciated bonus on the Friday was a glorious (if stupid o’clock in the morning) swim. I had felt overly optimistic packing swim things and delusional when asking at Reception about the pool (it hadn’t been on the website) but it turned out they had a shuttle which took me to a local golf club.

One of my highlights was seeing the 45 delegates in my Friday workshop being so willing to participate and happily experimenting with Power Poses (if you haven’t already, do check out Amy Cuddy’s Ted Talk here for more on this simple and effective technique).

Professor Stephen Joseph’s keynote on Post Traumatic Growth resonated with my own experience (personal and professional) as well as fitting so well with psychosynthesis which sees people’s potential as much as their wounding.

How wonderful to hear that 30-70% of survivors later (often MUCH later – this has to happen in their own time and on their own terms) see the trauma/s as a springboard into a more meaningful life.

I bought the last copy of his What Doesn’t Kill Us book and turned around and he was there so got an autographed copy.

Anne Scoging differentiated between complex and complicated trauma and gave an amazing talk about her experiences with the latter through her work with London firefighters.

I was sorry to not be able to attend more but with so many interesting offerings, I stuck with the trauma and self-care strands for Day 1.

BACP’s Jade and Richard and others (not to mention all the volunteers on BACP’s various Executives) did an amazing job organising it all.

That evening, we met some of BACP Coaching’s Network Group Organisers who were more local to Leeds than London. So great to put faces to names. If you’re a coach-therapist or simply want to find out more, it’s worth checking out local meetings and you can find out more information here.

Day 2 was about integrative coach-therapy and, having been in the background while Steve Page and Gill Fennings-Monkman put such a fab day together, it was great to be part of it unfolding and to meet so many lovely new coach-therapists and therapists who were simply interested in learning more about coaching.

We started with a Panel discussion and it was inspirational for me to hear more about their diverse journeys into coach-therapy.

My more holistic route into coach-therapy was very different from the others’ (more corporate) and, again, I’d been a little apprehensive about sharing some of it but people responded really positively.

Margaret Chapman guided some of us in a mindfulness meditation at lunch and Carolyn Mumby was, as ever, a superstar stepping in at the last minute after the lovely Jayne Hildreth (get well soon!) was too ill to make it for her segment.

Carolyn, Gill, Michele Down and Becky Wright pulled together to create an integrative workshop on integrative coach-therapy and some of the different approaches (including a comedic and informative role play session with Gill playing a fictional client and Michele pausing to explain her process at different stages throughout the session).

Steve Page led a thought provoking workshop around the quality of supervision for coach-therapists and then I shared some more self-care tools before we completed the day with a roundup discussion.

All in all, I feel fortunate to have met so many lovely people and to have got to know the team better.

As well as being part of such an exciting, pioneering and innovative way of working, it’s easy to occasionally feel a little isolated.

I imagine that the feeling of gratitude for community and support I felt in Leeds will stay with me for a long time.

If you were there, what were YOUR highlights? Feel free to share below.

Metta,

Eve

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Mood swings? The Emotional Pendulum might help (Rapport magazine, Feb 2015)

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Click below to read the full feature – RapportFeb15PendulumofEmotion

What helps YOU find ‘true rest’? Feel free to comment below.

Metta,

Eve

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Oh the irony – my Rapport magazine Easter themed column on resisting temptation :) (February 2015)

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Having proudly told loved ones on Easter Sunday that I’d practically effortlessly lost more than a stone in just over a month, I then received my magnificent eggs of chocolately gorgeousness and, well, went a bit astray for a while there.

Still, progress not perfection.

Hope you find my tips on resisting temptation helpful – you can read the full column here RapportFeb15QuickTipsTemptation

What do you find it hardest to resist?

What do you find easier?

Feel free to comment below.

Metta,

Eve

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On ITV News (Anglia) talking about career paths and confidence

On ITV News (Anglia), 9/4/15

On ITV News (Anglia), 9/4/15

A few weeks back, I was asked to support a young woman, Leigh-Ann, by offering life coaching comment on a project she’s doing for the youth charity Fixers. I was asked to facilitate a simple vision boarding exercise for some older students at Basildon Upper Academy in order to help them access their inner wisdom when it came to the choices they’re facing.

Although when I usually do this kind of exercise with clients and workshop participants it’s more relaxed and easier to lose yourself in the process (very different being filmed and directed by producers), the students said that they’d benefited.

By supporting them in just allowing themselves to be drawn to particular words and images and creating a vision board, my hope is that they’ll add to them at home (where they’re not being filmed so have more time) and that they’re able to use what they’ve already created to boost their confidence in being true to themselves.

Sometimes results are very obvious and can keep us focused and motivated when working towards specific goals we’ve pictured on our boards. Other times, seeing it reminds us of a sense we felt while working on it and we can use that as guidance, too.

You can view Leigh-Ann’s film by clicking here and see some of my comment (plus extreme overuse of the word ‘wonderful’).

And (whatever your age), if you want to get out of your head and more in tune with your heart, you may want to take an hour or so to create your own vision board:

1) gather a wide variety of magazines, scissors, glue and some paper / card to use as a base. A3 size is ideal but you can make it any size

2) allow yourself to be drawn to whatever images, colours, words etc that appeal. There’s no need to analyse or judge, just cut them out and, when you feel ready, start sticking them to the board you’re creating

3) have FUN with it. Play with the colours and pictures and words. You might even want to embellish it with paints and glitters – make a mess and enjoy the process

4) when you feel like it’s ‘done’ hang it up somewhere you’ll see it several times a day. It can serve as a visual anchor to remind you of the kind of things you’re wanting to bring into your life (this may be literal or more abstract in terms of a feeling you got in touch with while creating it).

5) sometimes, that’ll be it. Other times, you’ll notice additional images and words when flicking through magazines and newspapers – cut them out and add them! Let your vision for yourself evolve

6) you might also want to play with digital vision board tools such as Pinterest to create ongoing inspiration for yourself

Metta,

Eve x

Some of my life coaching tips on the confidence to change careers on BBC Essex yesterday (27/3/15)

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http://www.feelbettereveryday.co.uk/id14.html

Have you changed career? Would you do so if you had more confidence?

Feel free to comment below?

Metta,

Eve

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My advice column on remembering we’re adults now for Natural Health (April 2015)

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Click here to read the whole piece NHclosureApril2015column

What would YOU do?

Feel free to comment below?

Metta,

Eve

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Me on BBC Essex today with Sadie Nine talking innocent until proven guilty and, well, mostly that

I’d like to add (we ran out of time) that survivors who don’t report abuse of any kind are NOT responsible for potential future attacks. The perpetrators are responsible. There are all sorts of reasons for people not coming forward and heaping on blame on top of existing trauma and shame is not helpful.

The more people see justice being served and people being held accountable for their crimes (and hopefully rehabilitated and getting the help THEY need – healthy, happy people don’t hurt other people), the more confidence future survivors will have in reporting crimes themselves.

Yes, today’s Loud Women was more serious than usual with most of the discussion being around whether people who have been arrested for sex offences should be kept anonymous until proven guilty or whether seeing the name out there might encourage other survivors to come forward, heal their trauma and, hopefully, have their story heard and justice served.

It was interesting to hear from a magistrate, too.

You can listen to the whole programme (for the next 7 days) by clicking here (I’m on from around 1.15 to 2pm).

Do seek support if at all triggered or affected.

What do you think? Should anyone (regarding ANY crime) be named before there’s enough evidence to press charges and their name and details become public domain anyway? Feel free to comment below.

Metta,

Eve

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